Photography as Therapy

Three years ago I moved from Michigan to Southern California. Like with every other move in my life, I did this with my family, for my husband’s career. And while I was extremely busy for the next two years, trying to help our kids adjust in their new environments, I hit an inspirational wall like I have never experienced before in my life.

While I’ve struggled before to see some of my dreams not come true, this experience was different.

After being busy like everybody else around me, raising kids and running the family show for the last 20 years, things changed when my sons left home at the age of 18 to go to college. I thought things would improve. With more time at my hands I would be free to do what I always had wanted. But honestly, that was not even close to what happened next; I started to be unhappy all the time. And I didn’t even know why. The kids were healthy and on the right path, I was married to a great guy, and I finally had time to live my dreams but all I wanted was to stay home and hide under a blanket on the sofa with a book.

The more I did that the more depleted I felt. My mind became a madhouse of accusations: Get up, do something. You can’t stay here. You are useless. Nobody wants to see you like this. You’re lazy!

To compensate I ate chocolate. At least that made me feel good for a second or two. I even tried to have a little more wine at night, which served me heavy headaches the next morning and an even bigger desire to hide under that blanket. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months. And I felt heavier and heavier, on so many levels. The woman that I met when I looked into the mirror had nothing to do with the creative mind that used to run my life. So I tried to avoid the mirror, but that didn’t work. Mirrors and reflections are everywhere. Especially when you look at the world from the perspective of a photographer.

All I knew was something needed to change and that quickly! I could not longer stand that feeling of being left behind, empty like a deflated balloon. What had happened to my dreams? I will tell you what had happened. They did not die. They were still there. But they were hidden under a thick layer of stress and neglect. That was a shocking discovery.

I’m sharing this first part of my long story of self rediscovery after raising children and facing the empty nest because I could not have done it without my network of strong independent women. It took me a long time before I realized that I’m not alone in this. We all suffer from the same kind of inner darkness when left alone and unsupported. And only when we are able to open up and share our emotions with other humans we can see the path to healing.
Photography was the other important tool that allowed me to face my sadness. I started to go for long walks. Just accompanied by my camera. Many of the tears that I needed to cry turned into pictures of broken branches, lonely leaves, and single droplets. Later my photos became more colorful and eventually I felt the sadness fading away.

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When I look back at these pictures, I remember how I felt so lost and sad in this world full of beauty.

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These days I use an entire skill set that helps me to stay mentally and physically healthy. Workouts, a healthy diet, nurturing meaningful relationships and journaling are now part of my daily routine.

Recently I’m drawing a lot of inspiration about how to lead a better life from the book “Unfu*k Yourself” by Gary John Bishop. I love how he keeps reminding the reader about how important it is to get out of our head and into our life. That we need to stop dreaming about all the good things that we could do in do them instead. So I’m sitting here and I’m writing this blog post for you. I have wanted to write about this forever, but never felt like I would find the right words. Now I know, there will never be a better time to realize my dreams than right now.

Last weekend my daughter invited me to go out with her and take some pictures. Even though I felt tired I agreed. Soon my old friend, doubt, joined in and convinced me that I wasn’t prepared for this photo shoot, that I would probably produce only mediocre work and that I should better leave my camera in the car instead. But like Gary John Bishop says in his book, we need to train good habits like any other muscle. So I grabbed my camera instead of giving up, and I started working. The first few pictures were really bad. But to my surprise (yes, it still surprises me when the magic happens), my muscles warmed up and the camera felt good in my hands. Soon, my daughter and I were laughing together, while having a great time and taking pictures that we both love.

My hope for this post is that it will inspire you and that my happiness is contagious enough to get you out of your comfy chair and start your path to happiness. If that’s not the case, get the book and read it! I’m sure you will love it. And don’t forget to let me know what kind of reaction it sparked in you.

 


Click Away 2018, Amelia Island, Florida

Ten days ago I went to Florida to attend Click Away 2018, a conference for photographers. Imagine being surrounded by the beach, good food, even better company, all things photography related: you get the picture. 

My lens of choice for this event was the still new to me Lensbaby Burnside 35. Looks like our relationship is turning into a longterm thing. I really enjoy the storytelling quality that the 35 mm focal length gives every picture, as you can see in following beach shots.

Amelia Island Beach inviting you to walk for hours

Amelia Island Beach inviting you to walk for hours

Soft light, the ocean and white sand equals photography heaven

Soft light, the ocean and white sand equals photography heaven

In between workshops there was plenty of time to make new friends and explore the beautiful island. I started every morning with a long, foggy beach walk. 

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A random stranger showing me a sand dollar she found that morning taken with Lensbaby Burnside 35. I love the circular bokeh and how it helps to separate the main subject from the background.

A random stranger showing me a sand dollar she found that morning taken with Lensbaby Burnside 35. I love the circular bokeh and how it helps to separate the main subject from the background.

With a view like in the following picture it's hard not to be excited about photography. It's safe to assume that I took this picture every single day, because I loved watching how the colors changed over the course of the day. 

Afternoon glow at the Omni Amelia Island Plantation Resort

Afternoon glow at the Omni Amelia Island Plantation Resort

Morning light with ocean view

Morning light with ocean view

The best part with these kind of events is hanging out with friends who get you. So here is a glimpse behind the scenes. And yes, it is normal for us to belly dive into a picture.

Lucy in action...

Lucy in action...

...and this is the result.

...and this is the result.

This blog post is part of the blog circle I joined in January. We are a group of Lensbaby enthusiasts from all around the world. Each month we share a blog post of Lensbaby images. Every blog in the circle will end with a link to the next member. I hope you enjoyed reading about my Florida adventure with the Lensbaby Burnside 35. Please continue your journey and head over to Birgit Fostervold's blog (Lensbirdie). Thanks for reading and see you soon again with more stories from my upcoming trip to the city of Lübeck in Northern Germany!


Beta testing the Lensbaby Burnside 35

Last month I was approached by Lensbaby to beta test their newest creation, the Burnside 35. Once the lens arrived at my house, I could not wait to try it out. Like all Lensbaby lenses it is a manual lens, which I like a lot, because it makes me think harder and slow down before I take a picture. An added bonus is the little switch at the side of the lens, that let's you add a vignette to the photo. But the true beauty of this lens lies in the circular bokeh that it creates. So I ventured out and tried everything from landscapes, to selfportraits, to street style photography and of course environmental portraits. Let me tell you, it did it all. This lens is extremely versatile. To create the delicious bokeh I learned there are some rules that need to be followed. Distance from subject to background is key. In the beginning that was a little strange, but once I got the hang of it, I fell in love with the pictures, that you can create with this lens. But please, have a look. Because a picture says more than a 100 words. 

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Capturing Feelings

When life gets a little too stressful and my mind goes into overdrive I often pick up my camera and go for a walk on the beach. The sound of the ocean, sand between my toes, and the smell of water, is like a magical highly potent recipe for finding quietness.

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Overcome space, and all we have left is here. Overcome time, and all we have left is now.

~Richard Bach, “Jonathan Livingston Seagull”
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Walking along the waterline and allowing the ocean to wash all my worries away. 

Late afternoon sparkles. Taken with LB Twist 60

Late afternoon sparkles. Taken with LB Twist 60

Once my mind calms down, the magic happens. I start seeing beauty everywhere. I love how taking photos with my Lensbaby lenses allows me to translate my inner peace of mind into my pictures. 

Redondo Beach, CA

Redondo Beach, CA

In the end. Only three things matter. How much you loved. How gently you lived. And how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.

~Richard Bach “Jonathan Livingston Seagull”
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This post is part of the Lensbaby blog circle that I recently joined. In this blog circle a group of Lensbaby enthusiasts from all around the world comes together. Each months we will share a blog post of Lensbaby images. Each blog in the circle will end with a link to the next member. I hope you enjoyed seeing my pictures. Please continue your journey and head over to Martina's beautiful blog at Moerkrum I find it extremely inspiring and fascinating to see what other photographers do with their Lensbaby lenses. There can never be enough inspiration in our life as artists.